Thursday, August 14, 2008

Peaceful Pursuits

I added a new gadget, with some difficulty I might add. Most of the music gadgets I chose told me they were broken. There's always more than one way to skin a cat, LOL. I had to use the old way with the embed code using HTML/Java script feature. Amazingly I remembered how to make it autoplay as well. Sometimes I'm smarter than I think.

I called it a Jazz playlist although there's more than Jazz on it. Including some Marvin Gaye. So sue me why don't ya. I may change that, but maybe not. It depends. If you're reading this and it just says something like Cool Tunes or a very unimaginative title like Playlist then you know I did change it won't you? Actually this was the first Finetune playlist I ever did. Took me hours because I was so challenged. Now it takes me 10 minutes tops. Just in case you think I learn fast, it only took months.

I had stopped using it in Blogstream because it has so many songs on it. Too many for the use it was being put to. Project playlist worked for me for awhile, when I was really interested in the Saturday Blog Fever. You remember, back when it was fun? Now, one or two Youtubes does me fine.

I think I'm not going to be participating the way I used to. It's not fun anymore. there are too many bad feelings, and I admit we may have contributed to that, but we had help. Couldn't do it all on our own. Which is part of what's bothering me. We don't do anything that the others do and yet we are looked down upon. By pretty nearly everyone these days. Seems we can't win. Damned if we do and damned if we don't. The way of the world I guess.

All those people in BS that want to be on the first page of the most popular list have no idea what they're getting into. I've been on it for months and frankly all it has done is cause trouble. Once you get high enough on that list you become a target. I checked for the first time in a year and I'm up to number 19. That should be a pleasure and it isn't. It just makes a target for someone who is disgruntled and thinks they should be up there. They can have it.

All I wanted was a place to challenge my opinions and to keep myself mentally alert, a few people to comment with and a lot of reading. Now all I do is read and don't comment most of the time. I just don't seem to want to talk to anyone over there. I suppose that's fine by some, maybe most for all I know. Don't care to know either. It's no longer that important to me.

I actually have thought about quitting to do my blog there. I don't think I'll ever deactivate it, just walk away from it. I am in the process of writing a fiction story for my Ashes blog. Maybe I'll just write there and keep my opinions over here. Might be safer that way. At least nobody will bother me here. Now, I just have to go and change the title on my playlist feature. Yes, I'm going to do it now.

Sunday, August 3, 2008

Invisible Walls

Last night I took a Blogthing personality test that said I was an Idealist. It described me as having compassion, too much compassion. Maybe that compassion is why I have to say something when I see someone being injured by another blogger. It hurts me to see the people I don't like hurting those I do and getting away with it. I have been told to "not take it seriously". It's the internet. It's full of fakes. I suppose that's true to some extent, but what about the people behind the screen that aren't fake? Do they have to become fake to get along? It saddens me when I think about that.

I've spent my entire life standing up for what I believe in, and trying to make changes that I think would be better for all of us. In real life, my family and friends are the most important thing to me, I want to see a better world for their sake. I don't wish to see them inherit a world where lies are rewarded. Where cheating gets you ahead, and that is what I see people doing when they're online. They create drama for their own reasons, maybe to draw attention to themselves. I don't really know because I don't know these people that I am typing to on a daily basis.

I find it frustrating to try and tell people that they too have to stand up for what they believe in all the time, and they refuse to listen. They call my posts "blast posts" or "come to Jesus posts" and tell me that I am helping to create the drama. Maybe they're right. Maybe by standing up for blog friends when someone chooses to slam them is creating drama. Maybe I should just ignore them and they won't have anyone to fight with. If they have no one to fight with then maybe they'll fade away.

I see too many fights started by bloggers speaking to each other in someone elses posts. I suppose if the blog author chooses to allow it then I guess it's their business. On the other hand I believe that it's disrespectful to the blog author. I believe that there should be a limit to what bloggers say to each other when they are in someone elses comment page. I've decided to apply that ethical behavior to myself only and let others decide how they want to behave, with no opinion from me.

I think we get into trouble when we put ourselves out there too far. What is a joke to one person apparently is a snide remark to another. Another thing I know is that some people get annoyed when comments left in their pages have nothing to do with the post at hand. I know Lucy was accused of that behavior and it had a lot to do with the way some people treated her. It gave people the idea that she was all about her and what SHE wanted. Many arguments got started because of the frustration of feeling they weren't being listened to or truly acknowledged and that's what I think is happening there now.

People blog for different reasons and sometimes it isn't all about the fun for them. Sometimes it is a bid for sympathy, or kindness from someone. Maybe they aren't getting any emotional support in real life. Sometimes it's all about putting one over on people and when that type gets called out, they come out fighting and can't let it go. We don't run into that many of that type, it's just that they fight the longest and loudest and don't know how to really let things go.

Blog friends aren't real friends all the time. Some of them are attached to you just waiting for an opportunity to show the world who you really are. Mistakes are things that aren't forgiven in some peoples blog world. It's only been recently that has been happening and largely because of one person's inability to truly let it go. I think that's all we can do in the blog world. Delete, block, ignore and let it go. It can only harm you if you invite it in. Sometimes we really do need to build walls, even when we're online. I can stand up for what I believe in behind my wall. I don't have to do anything except shut off my computer and ignore the troublemakers. Lifes too short to do otherwise.